I know a lady who likes to say, “these are the things I’m thinking about instead what’s bothering me.” She’s not burying her head in the sand or failing to solve problems or face challenges; she practicing what she says the Buddhists call “good thinking.” It takes practice – like most things worth getting good at – but it can change your mood when the world feels all wrong or the people around appear to be on hiatus from being kind.
So here’s what I’m thinking about instead of what worries me about our world.
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Spring is here and summer is coming. There’s a great thought. Cooking and eating the food I grow in my garden, cutting flowers, relaxing on my front porch. Yes to that.
And I’m thinking about family. I love mine and we love to photograph families of all sizes. Each one contains a library of stories, memories, legacies and shared laughter, pain and joy. Family is always a happy thought for me.
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Babies. Think about a baby you know or one you’ve raised and your mood will shift immediately. I love thinking of babies. Babies in tutus. Babies wearing hats. Babies in overalls. [Digression: babies in overalls is a HILARIOUS concept to me. They are 20-ish inches tall! “They ain’t driving no tractor!!!” “They ain’t bailing no hay!!” But, there they are… in their denim and buckles and it’s just the funniest, sweetest thing. The only way they are being helpful is that you’re belly laughing at the cuteness. Just saying…] Pick your favorite baby image and ponder. You’re happier, right?
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Twinkling lights at night and summer evenings spent by a fire pit, on a porch swing, in a tent or hammock or playing cards by lantern at an old picnic table. I love that kind of light at night.![]()
Mountains. Dance with the one who brung ya, right? I love our mountains and if you’re a hiker, hike. If you have a view, sit back and take it in. I love living in a state replete with mountains and mountain views.
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Love that lasts. Who doesn’t want to remember that? Give brain power and care and thought to that; you’ll thank yourself. I love thinking about lasting love: some of it is as new as a baby but will last a lifetime and some already as old as a steadfast marriage. It’s all good.
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Going away. I love thinking about travel – allowing myself to escape to my favorite memories and then get excited about the possibilities of travel in the future. Ryan and I have done and seen a lot in our marriage and thinking about that journey makes me smile, regardless of locale.
Home. I think about home and am more full than I could ever describe to you guys. We host you there when you come to our indoor studio or out in the garden, but it’s the center of our world. It’s comfort, it’s creativity, it’s food, it’s gatherings …. our “workin’ week and Sunday rest,” as Auden put it. God blessed us big time with our over-a-century-old home.
Whatever is potentially weighing on you, … take the time – make the room for “good thinking.” List your happy places, people, pets, memories, foods and let that happy into every artery you have inside of you.
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Now I love jumping jacks and cartwheels as much as the next girl. Ask anybody. Actually don’t ask anybody. But I don’t mind pulling out all the stops to get a kid to grin. We would love to tell you that when we walk into a room with our equipment or welcome kids into our portrait studio, children light up with joy. With glee and with abandon.
And sometimes they do. Please see exhibit A – Sawyer Jane below.
But Sawyer Jane was brand new (weeks old) and had just won a scholarship.
And been tickled.
And was probably pooping.
Flynn is, not surprisingly, an entirely different creature. Different parents, different gender, different stylists, teachers and chefs cater to him. And as handsome as he is, and handsome as he was as a newborn, the day of his one year photo shoot, he had been reading the Times, the Post, blog trolls and watching cable news and decided to be in a serious mood. His parents are clients of ours and we photographed Kathren & Nathan Lundy’s engagement and their wedding several years ago, as well as Flynn’s newborn pictures.
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You can’t always win kids over and we pulled more than a few tricks out of our hats with sweet Flynn: songs, toys, videos, silly faces, dancing; you name it we tried it. He was mild and contemplative – and extremely cute – but there was no raucous laughter. To be honest, I love the individuality we see. Adults are this way, why can’t kids be?
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Close to the end of our session, when we had almost caved to his seriousness and I began to run – literally – around inside the studio, yelling loudly, hiding behind a giant soft box in our own version of peep eye did he finally crack a little. Flynn’s a little statesman, although when we see him next, he may be on the short list for head writer at SNL.
I love that Kathren and Nathan were delighted to find we had captured more than one or two photos from his session. And always it’s awesome to witness and capture the changes in the lives of those we first met as engaged couples.
Serious or not, we love you, Flynn.
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